Cabbages and Kings
Cabbages and Kings… Time to speak without fear…
“The time has come, the Walrus said, to speak of many things….. Of shoes and ships and sealing wax, and cabbages and kings….. And why the sea is boiling hot, and whether pigs have wings……”
I had one of my deep, philosophical conversations with one of my now adult kids last night…..I have many delightful conversations with my children, children-in-law and grandchildren who are beginning to participate too. It wasn’t always like that…. It is now. Much water has flowed under the bridge.
So why this song in my head? It is a song my maternal grandfather used to play for me when I was a child. He was a man of much wisdom and few words. My grandmother was one of the wisest women I have ever known. She told me tales of my French background…. of feuds with the Pope and how religion tainted the love affairs of my ancestors, who were heavily influenced by the Powers that be… Sadly, being raised as a Christian, I was living in fear of discussing anything that “went against the church and religion” and I missed out on a golden opportunity of learning much…. including medicine, as my gran traveled the rural areas with her doctor father and learned much about traditional African herbs and medicine while vaccinating large sectors of the rural population.
How I wish I could bring them back and sit at their wise feet and listen without fear…..
Fear is a crippling thing. Fear brings many regrets of unspoken conversations, of censored wisdom, untried theories and un-lived lives…. I have been there. I never want to return to that place again. No more institutions slapping blinkers on while I willingly plod on in ignorance in a tiny, tiny world…. programmed into me since I was born…. I was given a religion, given a culture, given a skin colour and given a language. I was told how to act when I was afraid, and when my daughter died.., I kept quiet when I had much to say for fear of retribution. I tried desperately to fit into a world that was alien, unloving, prejudiced, narrow-minded and very hypocritical. Until I decided that I could not healthily continue to live like that and my soul was SCREAMING to express what my truth is…. which is ever-evolving and only holds true for where I am right now.
Enough. The world is evolving. Clinging to old ideas without being open to listen to anything outside of set parameters is ludicrous. We have a fascinating and diverse universe. Listen. Be open. Talk…. Find the magic…
Until we meet again, you have unspoken words and unheard wisdom to attend to…..