“Let my voice be heard”
“Let My Voice Be Heard”
Very early in January last year, I wrote a Numerology post on the vibrations of 2013. In Numerology terms it was a “6” year globally. Number 6 has everything to do with the “cosmic mother” energy: love, relationships, nurturing, responsibility and duty. The number 6 says “Let my voice be heard.” That issues involving women were headline news last year is very fitting. I predicted that it would be a year in which the focus would be on women`s rights and family matters, among others and indeed it was so….
We had Anene Booysen and Jyoti Singh Pandey, who became the faces of rape and violence globally. Then Reeva Steenkamp became a victim, dying tragically after being shot by her boyfriend and much was said about what she endured during her relationship with Oscar.
Let their deaths not be in vain. Enough is enough.We have reached a tipping point and we must ride this wave together while we have momentum.
Part of the problem is access to affordable legal help; help which is immediate and gives the woman the benefit of the doubt until the case has been heard or tried. In some countries, such as the UK, I believe it is so.- guilty until proven innocent.
Abusers hide behind charming public personalities and lies. Sociopaths and psychopaths fool even the best psychiatrists and legal systems and continue their reign of controlling or destroying. Until it is too late nobody is willing to do anything about it. They literally get away with murder. It is not uncommon for these people to wreak havoc and never be caught or have to account for their deeds. They learn how to play the pity card. They learn how to fake emotions to get out of situations. They blame instead of taking responsibility. They have no remorse and no conscience.
Women involved with abusive partners are powerless to a large extent to stand up to these monsters alone. They roam freely in our societies, many of them respected members of companies and communities. Too many women live in fear. Laying a charge or leaving a relationship or marriage is often not an option for these women. It can make the abuse worse. A restraining order is merely a piece of paper and every woman in this position knows that it is barely worth the paper it is written on. It does not keep you safe.
Financial-, verbal- or emotional abuse leaves no visible scars. The scars of going through ineffective legal systems run deep. Shame destroys women from within and they learn that keeping quiet is often the only option. Without money there is little help or support, regardless of what you may have read or heard.
Sometimes, sadly, as women our worst critics are other women. Women, I urge you to support each other. I don’t know what the solution is, but there is a world of women crying out for a legal system that can put their money where their mouth is.
Perhaps the real men are the people who will eventually put a stop to all of this.
Until we meet again